FourFourThree: When a woman’s dick is a gift for a man article When a penis gets a gift from a woman, it’s usually not a gift in itself.
But for some men, it can be a source of pleasure.
And in recent years, the gift has been used to build a strong bond with their female partner.
In the case of a male who has recently been introduced to a new female friend, the act of penis-shaking is an extension of a common, but often overlooked, relationship strategy: courting.
“The whole ‘don’t be shy’ part of it is the one thing that makes it so unique, and I think a lot of guys, particularly in the U.S., really need to be that way,” says David Henn, a clinical psychologist who has worked with a wide range of men.
Henn is also a founder of the Men’s Health Network , a group of over 100,000 men and women who offer support and advice to men seeking treatment for penis-related health issues.
But as a leading provider of male-focused, evidence-based information, he also sees the gift as a crucial tool in building a healthy relationship.
“I’m not saying that penis-raising is wrong,” he says.
“But if you’re talking about a relationship where there’s intimacy, you have to be aware of how it can affect your partner.”
For men, the use of penis gifts is an opportunity to deepen that bond, he says, noting that while it’s never a bad thing, it shouldn’t be seen as a substitute for healthy relationships.
“In relationships, you want to make sure that when you’re doing that, it isn’t just about sex,” Henn says.
“It’s about trust, it is about caring, it has to be about sharing a relationship that is grounded in trust.”
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The idea of penis shaking is not new.
In the 1980s, psychologist Robert Ochsner found that men who shook their partners’ genitals to make them smile felt happier.
Ochson has said the act is similar to “getting a good massage,” but is much less likely to be used in a sexual relationship than a blow job.
Ochsson argues that while penis-based gifts may not be a bad idea for women, men need to realize that their penis-sharing is a way for women to help build a relationship.
Henn agrees, saying that in order to help women with relationships, men must be mindful of the potential impact their penis gifts can have on their partners.
“If it’s a gift that makes them feel like they have a relationship, that is something that is very important to them, but if it’s something that they don’t want, it probably shouldn’t go on a date,” Henny says.
In a recent study published in the journal Sexual Health, researchers found that when men were presented with pictures of attractive women, the more they wanted to see a picture of attractive men, they felt less connected with their partner, and they were less likely than men who did not see any pictures of women.
The researchers found similar results for the pictures of unattractive men.
In one of the studies, the researchers looked at the relationship of men who had just been introduced, and found that the participants who had received a penis-shake were significantly less connected to their partner than those who did nothing to make the introduction.
“People have this idea that men are more emotionally expressive, but it’s really about connecting with the person,” says Henn.
“The penis gift is a wonderful way for them to connect with the partner and the intimacy they have in the relationship, and it’s not something that needs to be a focus of a relationship.”